7 Tips For More Ease
In your Life
Who else needs a breath of fresh air in their day? One of our greatest challenges today is managing our emotions. If we could just learn to do that, we could actually live with ease.
Today’s post will contain mindset strategies for peace and practical tips to implement so you may enjoy greater ease in your life.
It was only when I learned more about how our brain functions, that I was able to go through a lifestyle transformation: to live with less stress and more ease. Less overwhelm and more balance. Then my husband, Evan, joined me. Now we are learning how to support one another.
If one of us gets off track, the other will pull us back into peace.
The more we’ve invited ease into our lives, the less we feel anxiety about things in life we can’t control.
Believe me when I tell you, we don’t live a charmed life. We have problems like everyone else. Yet we are blessed beyond what my words can describe. To what do I attribute this?
• Over the years, learning enough about God’s Word and His promises so our minds default to that knowledge to help keep us grounded.
• Fighting to believe in faith despite the evidence the world gives us.
• Learning how our brain works so we can create mental boundaries for what we will allow in our lives.
We have to protect our minds from the onslaught of disruptions and chaos. That means we shut off the voices and images that bring unpleasant thoughts into our mind. We have been working on this for years yet some days we are more successful than others.
"Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." ~ Philippians 4:8
Those who invite us into difficult conversations today have it all wrong. We will NOT solve our problems by focusing on them. Talking about a problem and rehashing various aspects of it will only increase our fear and frustrations, not bring us closer.
Word of Caution For Inner Peace
Do you feel drawn to correct what seem to be misunderstandings or false beliefs on social media? I'm not referring to people you know well. rather random others. I understand your heart and I don't want to see you get blind-sided.
It is for this reason I caution you to beware of agitators and provocateurs on all social media right now. They are out in mass. I came across two cases of it just this morning and I had to remind myself that any and every response fuels them. (I don’t know about you, but remaining silent is really hard for me.)
Efforts to console or debate them are useless because they aren’t looking for a solution. Acknowledging them only fans the flames and steals our inner peace.
“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and mutual edification." ~ Romans 14:19
This means we need to focus on the desired outcome and plan steps to get there. This is our solution.
Coaching 101: You will always move in the direction of your focus.
We need to build each other up. Our conversations should concentrate on encouragement, blessing and redirecting if necessary.
TIPS FOR MORE EASE
Here are some simple strategies to live with more ease every single day. I'd encourage you to try to implement some of these and notice how your quality of life shifts toward ease.
1. Adjust your schedule for ease.
Most of us are way over-scheduled, so it's no wonder we feel scattered, overwhelmed and collapse at the end of the day. Even though you may be able to complete your to-do list, consider the impact to your health and mind with all the busyness. As you set your schedule for the week, pray that God shows you exactly what He wants you to do. Then don’t add bonus tasks.
This will enable you to feel calm, balanced and at peace. Many of the things we do and have committed to do were never in God’s plan to begin with. And yes, maybe you can do them, but it won’t ultimately bless you or anyone else when you are filled with stress and anxiety.
I have a daily 3-task list. These may be tasks to complete a thing or work on something for a designated time. Then stop. God knows what you need to get done that day and He will help focus you on things that matter most at the moment. Try this for a couple weeks and see the difference you feel.
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When you complete your tasks each day, you can set aside worries about what else needs to be done and focus on connecting with loved ones and/or spending the rest of your day in ease. God wants you to enjoy your life.
Scripture tells us Jesus went about doing good. He had peace and an ease about everything He did. Do you recall an example of Jesus rushing to and fro because time was limited? No? Well neither do I.
2. Decide to delegate.
Ask another person to do one more task in order to take it off your plate. You don’t have to do everything. By asking others, you're helping them feel valuable by giving them the opportunity to support you.
3. Stop multi-tasking.
Ouch. This is a hard one. It was pretty typical for me to have several things going at the same time and even more irons in the fire. It’s really no wonder I could not find the time to do things I valued as most important. I had promoted my C-list tasks into A-list position. And my productivity suffered as a result.
A-list tasks – must do
B-list tasks – important but can wait
C-list tasks - optional
It’s still a challenge to focus on one thing before moving on to the next but it’s gradually getting easier as I see more quality in my results.
Pay attention to times you may be multi-tasking. Then go back to the 3-task list God gave you and begin working on them one at a time. You'll feel so much peace and your days will fill with ease.
5. Create margin in your schedule.
What I mean by this is allow yourself extra time before you go somewhere as well as extra time for your travel back home. That extra buffer of time will make attending any event more enjoyable. You might want to add in extra time to get ready. You’ll feel a renewed sense of ease as you navigate your day.
“For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.”
~ Romans 14:17
6. Be selective.
When you have more ease in your day, you’ll have more peace all around. So don’t be surprised at new invitations or events that try to fill your schedule again.
Practice telling others, “Thank you for thinking of me. Let me see how it fits in my schedule and I will let you know if I can do it.” (In other words, don’t call me, I’ll call you, said graciously.)
Then pray about whether it’s the right thing for you to take on. Remember, just because it’s a noble cause or a Christian event, does not mean that YOU must do it. Only do something if the Lord leads you.
7. Make space for ease.
It's nearly impossible to feel that sense of ease when your surroundings are a mess. Organize one small area each day until your space feels clear and organized. Your mind will feel refreshed as you enter the space and you’ll feel good just being there. Your creativity and inspiration will spike.
As you organize, make 3 piles: keep, donate, throw away. Everything you keep needs to get organized so less is more.
Do you have any additional tips to support a life of ease?
I’d love to hear about them in the comments below.
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