Truth About Lies Fear Tells Us – PART 2
This week I will conclude with Part 2 of the series entitled Truth About The Lies Fear Tells Us. This is SO GOOD, I know you will be forever blessed by what I share here! (Imagine fireworks exploding or confetti being thrown!) Last week, I covered the truth about the first 7 lies and in today’s post, I will resume with the truth about the #8 lie fear tells you.
In case you missed it, you may want to READ LAST WEEK'S POST first.
So here we go with Part 2:
8. I don’t think I can handle success. TRUTH: Do your part and leave the results to God. It’s when we start meddling in God’s territory, we can mess up. So only concern yourself with your part.
9. I don’t want to start and then let people down. TRUTH: Do your best, ask for help when you need it and you won’t let anyone down.
10. What if I don’t make enough to pay for my investment? TRUTH: What is your real goal here, to create a successful endeavor or only recoup your investment? If you only want to recover your investment, don’t waste your time. Remember that your focus determines your trajectory. So plan for a success, aim for a success, do what needs to be done and that will be your direction of movement. Then stick with it! There is no such thing as an overnight success.
11. I don’t know what to do if things go wrong. TRUTH: Mostly things will go well. But if you get stuck, dissect the matter if/when you get there. 99% of the time, the things you fear, never happen. Pretty good odds, I’d say. Worst case, ask for help. Everything is figure-out-able!
12. I hate sales (or) I am afraid of selling. TRUTH: This is because you are misinformed about what selling really is. Actually sales is exchanging value for value. When done correctly, there is a conversation about the needs of the client so those needs can be filled with a solution. In exchange for the solution, the client offers value. See? Value for value, plain and simple.
13. My (business, project, etc.) will take over my life and I will lose myself and family in it. TRUTH: Nothing can take over your life without your permission. Set good boundaries in the beginning and stick with them. Need help? Get a coach to keep you accountable.
14. I have never done this before. TRUTH: None of us have ever traveled through a new day before, yet we do it over and over again. What you feel is exhilaration and mistake if for fear. If you don’t walk this out, the discomfort can keep you exactly where you are or moving in a less desirable direction.
In a recent interview, Christy Wright, business coach on the Dave Ramsey team, gave the following three, excellent tips. (I took good notes but admittedly, some of this has been paraphrased!)
1 – FEAR IS NORMAL
"Fear is a normal part of the journey, explained Christy. "So many think because they feel fear, it’s a red flag they are doing something wrong. It doesn’t mean you are doing something bad, it means you are doing something BOLD. And that is a very good thing. Fear is part of the journey and there is no quick fix. You can’t flip a switch and turn it off. You will have it at different levels. There is something called the “imposter syndrome and it is scientifically proven."
(According to Wikipedia, “imposter syndrome” is a term coined in 1978 by clinical psychologists Dr. Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne A. Imes referring to high-achieving individuals marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Despite external evidence of their competence, those exhibiting the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved.)
"This makes a person feel inadequate," says Christy. … (i.e. Inner chatter telling you: Who are YOU to start a business? Do I know what I am doing? All lies. Many famous people have suffered with this.) Best advice: Don’t wait until you are unafraid. Do it now."
2 – UNDERSTAND AND EXPECT THAT FAILURE IS JUST PART OF THE JOURNEY
"A setback does not mean you have to stop what you are doing. We are going to have ups and downs. Business can be very emotional because it’s personal. You put your heart and soul out on the line so you feel vulnerable and it’s risky. The people who succeed in life do it anyway."
“I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games.
26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.
I've failed over and over and over again in my life.
And that is why I succeed.” ~ Michael Jordan
Failure is just part of the journey and that’s ok and you will succeed if you keep going anyway.
3 – THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS ‘READY’.
"So many people say 'I’m just not ready.' The business isn’t perfect. I don’t have enough experience, credentials, resources or ________ fill in the blank. I’m not ready.” I want to encourage you, READY is a myth."
"Ready is not real," said Christy. "You will never wake up and feel totally ready to do the thing you want to do that you are scared to do. So you just do it anyway. Start now, start tomorrow. You put yourself out there. It’s by doing that you learn and it’s by doing that you get that experience and it’s by doing that you get the confidence to take the very next step. I want to encourage you. Ready is a myth. You can start tomorrow. Give yourself permission to be a beginner and start somewhere."
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